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Most of those who consume porn know that what they see on screen is not a faithful representation of what actually happens in real life. However, sometimes a person’s consciousness can get fooled. In such a case, this individual might behave like situations presented in pornographic movies are nothing unusual. As a result, they might be seen by others as too frivolous or bad-mannered.
With this being said, it is good from time to time to remind ourselves that what we see in adult movies is only acting and not a depiction of a healthy relationship. Although there are a few lessons porn can teach us, we cannot believe in every frame it features. Lighting, specifically selected lenses, and actors with postures of greek gods are all elements of the illusion.
In real life, sex does not always end with both partners being satisfied. Sometimes, only one person will reach an orgasm. Moreover, the sexual act usually does not continue for hours on end. Instead, both partners are generally weary after ten minutes or so, and not all couples even get to this point.
Here is a brief explanation of why an ‚adult movie like scenario‘ will most likely not work for you in real life:
Sex Will Never Last as Long as It Does on Screen
In films, sex seems to go on forever. It starts with foreplay and then progresses to oral sex and penetration. Then there is usually more oral sex and vaginal penetration followed by anal penetration and finally ejaculation and orgasm – sometimes multiple orgasms.
In real life, this process usually takes ten minutes or less. Although it is possible to prolong sexual intercourse by changing positions and other techniques, the average time for this is twenty minutes.
The long-lasting sex portrayed in adult movies is often disappointing in real life. A man’s body does not have any endless stamina, and neither does a woman’s. But if you want to reach the performance you see on the screen, you can try exercising on the best TPE sex dolls. It probably won’t make you look like a Greek god, but you will probably give more pleasure to your partner after that.
Porn Leads To Unrealistic Expectations
Pornography makes individuals believe that the ‚perfect scene‘ is possible in real life. They think that they can have it all: perfect bodies, beautiful sex, and loud orgasms. However, the truth is that porn is not an accurate depiction of reality. Like in any other film, some tricks are used to make the scene look more appealing. For example, lighting is made to be better than in real life, so it will bring out the best of the actors‘ bodies. This is one of the reasons why porn is often called „adult movies.“
Real-life Sex Does Not Always End With Both Partners Being Satisfied
Pornography often presents idealized situations when both partners are happy after having sex. Real-life sex is not always like that, though. Sometimes, one person will have an orgasm, and the other will be left unsatisfied.
Of course, the ideal sexual intercourse should end with both sides being as satisfied as possible. In case when one partner does not get from sex what they are looking for, they need to talk about this situation with their partner and try to resolve the issue.
Real-life Sex Does Not Always Involve Special Positions
Many men think that it takes a wide range of sexual positions to make their partner orgasm, but this is simply not true. They can screw their partner in any position, and sometimes all it takes is a missionary to make them come.
Apart from that, many positions depicted in such movies are rather tricky and may give disappointing results. Remember that what you see there is acting used to arouse the audience and not provide authentic pleasure to people involved.
You Will Need To Use Condoms and Lube
This is another thing that adult films do not show us – there is little to no lubrication on set. So movies tend to end up making sex look far more natural than it actually is since those performers do not have to worry about preventing a condom from slipping off during penetration or about a condom breaking because of a lack of lubrication.
In real life, though, if you decide to have intercourse with a partner, you will have to use condoms – especially if you want to avoid an unwanted pregnancy or an STD contraction. Similarly, even healthy couples may need to use some lube. While it doesn’t look as seamless as in the movies, sometimes it is good to take some time to prepare.
Pornographic Movies Do Not Depict Sexuality in a Healthy Manner
Although it depends on your personal opinion, most people would agree that sexual activity should be about intimacy rather than lust alone. The problem with pornography is that it shows sexuality as something that can be used just for individual satisfaction. Meanwhile, it portrays intimacy between partners as something secondary, if at all. This is why many people who consume pornography become unable to enjoy having sex with another person without first involving lust or sexual fantasies.
Conclusion
Although we understand that porn is a form of entertainment and it shouldn’t be taken seriously, we still need to remind ourselves of how the adult film industry works and why some things are done the way they are. In adult movies, everything is done for entertainment, and nothing is left for reality.
The bottom line is that pornography has nothing to do with real-life sex. It is only a portrayal of an idealized situation that would be impossible to replicate in real life. We have presented some of the most important differences between real-life sex and porn here, but there are many more. If you want to make sure that your sex life is happy, healthy, and fulfilling, keep in mind this is something no adult movie can teach you.