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It is safe to assume that everyone has their own sexual fantasies. Some may get turned on by the idea of role-playing, while others may dream of having sex in public. However, not everyone is comfortable sharing them with their partners. It may be because of the fear of judgment or that your partner won’t feel excited about trying them.
But the truth is, turning your sexual fantasies into reality can give your relationship a much-needed boost. It can add excitement and spice things up, even if you’ve been together for years. And it doesn’t mean looking for the most extreme sexual encounters. Often, the simplest fantasies can be the most fun to explore together.
But how do you broach the subject with your partner? You can’t just blurt out, „I want us to have sex in a public place!“ Instead, start by talking about your fantasies in general terms. There’s no one right way to do this, but when it comes to the more common sexual fantasies, here are some ways to get started:
Group Sex
When it comes to thrills, group sex is hard to beat. But it’s not for everyone. For many couples, sex is more than just physical activity; it requires an emotional connection and, more importantly, the feeling of safety. And asking your partner to expose themselves to other people can threaten that feeling.
Before introducing the idea of inviting new people to your bedroom, it may be a good idea to share your fantasies with your partner first. Say, you’ve just browsed through Sydney Sweeney nude photos, and you wonder how it would be to have a threesome with a celebrity. Talk about what you find exciting in that idea, and see how your partner reacts.
Role-Playing
Role-playing is probably the most approachable sexual fantasy for couples, and it can be as straightforward or as complicated as you want it to be. The key is to create a scenario that excites both of you: a teacher and student, boss and secretary, or something else entirely, like queens and knights.
Once you’ve decided on the roles you want to play, it’s time to start thinking about the details. Particular pieces of clothing you would want each other to wear, the setting, and what you’ll say to each other – all of these elements can make or break the fantasy. The most important part is to have fun, so don’t be afraid to be silly and let the scenario go in any direction you want.
Public Sex
Having sex in public is another popular sexual fantasy for many people. It can be thrilling to let your inhibitions fly, yet, it’s also vital to be realistic about the risks involved. If caught, you could face legal consequences, let alone the first and second-hand embarrassment.
To prevent it from flopping, try to find places that are not “too public” but still come with the thrill of getting caught by a bystander. A parked car, a secluded beach, or even your own backyard can be perfect as long as you can make yourselves comfortable.
And remember, you can always take things slowly at first and start with making out in public before progressing to anything else.
BDSM and S&M
Bondage, discipline, and sadomasochism are not for everyone. However, BDSM relies greatly on trust between partners and open communication about what you’re comfortable with – for instance, a safe word is a must. As such, trying out BDSM practices might turn out to be an actual bonding experience for you two if you approach it carefully.
If you’ve been fantasizing about trying BDSM with your partner, the best thing to do is start with light bondage. Tying your partner up or being tied up yourself can be exciting and lead to some pretty steamy sex.
As one of you dominates and the other submits, you can experiment with different activities and find out what gets you both hot. Maybe it will help you find a new way to enjoy sex together, or perhaps you’ll realize that BDSM is not for you after all. Either way, it will be an experience you and your partner will never forget.
Open Relationships
Sometimes you may feel that you just want to try something different, even if it’s just for one night. Being with one partner for a long time can leave you wondering what else is out there. Luckily, you don’t have to end your current relationship to find out. You can try a non-monogamous relationship instead.
The success of an open relationship depends on the rules you set for each other. You may agree to have sex with other people but not develop any emotional attachments, in the way friends-with-benefits relationships are often thought of. This, however, may be pretty risky, as it lies not so far from cheating – which is why the consent of both partners is crucial.
It is worth noting that the same goes for fantasizing about your partner having sex with someone else while you are watching. Cuckolding is on the rise for many people, but it’s up to your partner to decide whether to put your relationship to such a test or not.
Final Thoughts
Sexual fantasies are a normal part of life, and there’s nothing wrong with having them as long as you’re not hurting anyone. Yet, turning your fantasies into reality can be tricky, especially if you aren’t sure how your partner will react.
The key is to talk about your fantasies in general terms and gauge their reaction. If they seem open to the idea, you can take things one step further and slowly introduce new activities into your sexual encounters.
With open communication, trust, and a little bit of planning, you can get closer to each other and find new ways to enjoy sex together. Have fun!