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It’s no secret that while what you do in your alone time does not define you, it does influence other aspects of your life. Sex, intimacy, and vulnerability are all important parts of living a healthy life. If you neglect such a primal and intimate part of yourself, you’ll end up neglecting a large portion of the rest of your life.
Your intimate side translates into many aspects of your less-intimate life. By working on and improving your intimate side, you can turn your entire life around! Whether you’re going through a rough patch in your personal or romantic life and you want to make a change, you’ve come to the right place! Here’s everything you need to know about intimacy and why you shouldn’t neglect it!
Less intimacy
One of the main side effects of neglecting your intimate side is that you experience less intimacy in your relationships. Intimacy is one of the founding pillars of any good relationship. To be intimate with someone else, you first have to get to know yourself intimately. If you don’t know what you like or want in bed, your intimate relationships will suffer.
There’s no right or wrong way to experience intimacy with yourself and others, everyone is different. Whether you’re into being panty-gagged or something more vanilla, you need to talk to your partner about what you like and want in bed. Being able to be honest about what you’re into can help you unlock a new level of intimacy in your relationship.
Less honesty
Honesty is the best policy when it comes to forming meaningful relationships with yourself and others. If you can’t be honest with yourself about who you are and the things you like, you can’t expect to have transparency with your partner. Honesty and transparency with others start with being able to be honest with yourself first. If you’re unable to be honest with yourself about your likes, dislikes, and needs, you’re going to have a tough time being honest with others!
If you can be honest with yourself about the more intimate aspects of your life, you can do the same with the more mundane parts. Coming to terms with your intimate side can take a lot of time and work, but it’s necessary to live a happy and fulfilled life.
Weaker connection with others
Intimacy and strong connections with others go hand in hand, no matter the nature of the relationship. Whether in friendships or relationships with romantic partners, you need intimacy to feel close to the other person. If you neglect the intimate sides of yourself, you’ll have trouble forming meaningful connections with others.
Being in touch with your intimate side shows that you know who you are and can accept yourself fully. When you accept yourself, you’ll be able to find other like-minded people who you can form strong and meaningful connections with. Neglecting this side of yourself leaves you feeling isolated and alone, and less likely to meet the right people. Make an effort to work on your intimate side to experience true intimacy in all your relationships.
Lower self confidence
It’s not a stretch to say that how you feel about yourself intimately translates into how you feel in relationships. Intimacy is hard and it’s made harder still with things like lower self-confidence, poor self-image, and insecurities. Whether you’ve just had a baby or you’re going through a rough patch in your relationship, it’s hard to feel confident in your body. If you can’t accept, love, or value yourself, you can’t help others do the same for you either.
Working on your intimate side and getting to know yourself on that level can help you cultivate a strong sense of self-confidence. Becoming a more confident person takes some time and effort, but it all starts with the relationship you have with yourself.
Anxiety about the bedroom
Aside from hurting the relationship you have with yourself, a poor understanding of your personal intimacy can also hurt your sex life. Whether due to a lack of confidence or experience, getting down and dirty with someone can be stressful for a lot of people. If you’re not in touch with your intimate side, you may find being intimate with others even more of a challenge.
Figuring out what you like, getting to know your body, and accepting it are just some of the ways you can combat this problem. Talking to your partner and having honest and open conversations about these things can also help. Working through bedroom anxiety can be nerve-wracking and triggering. It’s important to be patient with yourself throughout this process of sexual self-discovery.
Stress and depression
Last but not least, if you’re not in touch with your intimate side, it can cause stress and anxiety that can spill over into every other aspect of your life. Accepting and indulging in what you enjoy in the bedroom is one of the most primal ways to accept yourself. If you don’t have this sturdy foundation, you may start to develop depression or anxiety in other aspects of your life.
This anxiety and stress can be directed towards yourself and your body, or it can translate into how you behave in a relationship. It can affect your performance at work as well as your performance in the bedroom. Working on your personal intimate relationship is the key to keeping this stress at bay.
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So there you have it! With these points in mind, it’s easy to see how and why working on your intimate side is so important. Learning to explore and embrace the most intimate parts of yourself can drastically improve your life’s quality and how you choose to live it! Without this foundation, you will experience less intimacy and honesty with both yourself and others. You may struggle to form meaningful relationships and you may find it difficult to find the right people.
Your self-esteem may suffer and you may have warped ideas about yourself and your body if you’re not connected to your intimate side. Anxiety about the bedroom will be more common and you may struggle to really let go and enjoy the experience. Finally, if you neglect your intimate side, the problem may snowball into stress and depression in other aspects of your life. Keep this guide in mind and consider getting to know yourself more intimately, starting today!